How to catch cheaters on iPhone

If you suspect that your partner is cheating, it's quite easy to find out what's really going on if they use an iPhone. You can check their device for any new dating apps, flirty messages or suspicious browsing history, or use features like Find My iPhone to monitor their location without possibly installing illegal spying apps. We'll explain these (and more) ways to catch a cheating partner on iPhone. Plus, we talked to professional therapists and counselors about how to recognize cheating behaviors and talk to your partner about them.

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• Check the browsing history of your partner's iPhone for dating apps or any suspicious dating sites to see if they have cheated.
• Scroll through texts, calls, direct messages, and pictures of someone you don't recognize for anything flirty they've done.
• Use the Find My iPhone feature to track your partner's location and frequently visited places. Avoid using true spy apps without your partner's consent.

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,edit,Looking for evidence of fraud on iPhone

1. Search for dating apps on their phone. Many scammers download dating apps like Tinder or Hinge to find and connect with new people. Keep an eye on any new apps on your partner's phone and take a look at them if you suspect they're cheating.⁽¹⁾
   
   • Go to the Settings app and tap “Battery” or “Screen Time” to see if there are any hidden dating apps your partner is frequently using.⁽²⁾
   • For a deeper search, try typing each letter into the iPhone's search bar to see any dating apps hidden from view.
2. View calls, texts or emails from people you don't recognize. Scroll through your partner's call history and messaging apps to see who they've been talking to recently. If your partner is repeatedly calling or texting a number you don't recognize or sending flirty messages, chances are you caught them copying,⁽³⁾
   
   • Many scammers try to delete offensive messages, but you can recover anything deleted last 30 days. In the Messages app, tap “Edit” in the upper-left corner and click “Show recently deleted.”⁽⁴⁾
   • If your partner starts receiving random messages and calls late at night or at odd hours, this could be another red flag that they are flirting with someone else.
3. Scroll through their browsing history for any suspicious websites. Some fraudsters may visit sites on your iPhone's browser instead of installing a new app. Open Safari or any other browser on their phone and check the site history. If you notice any suspicious sites that they frequently visit, it could be a red flag.⁽⁵⁾
   
   • If you don't see any history on the browser, it could be a sign that your partner recently deleted their history to cover their tracks.
   • You can also try going into Settings, tapping on Safari, selecting “Advanced,” and then browsing to “Website Data” for any dating or messaging site.
   • Keep in mind that fraudsters may use private browsing mode so that their site history is not stored on their iPhone.
4. Check out the steamy pictures and videos saved on their phone. If your partner is messaging or sexting someone else, they can keep the photo or video in their gallery. Check their Photos app, making sure to look in the “Recently Deleted” and “Hidden” albums for any evidence that it's not in the main gallery.
   
   • If you don't see the “Hidden” album, go to Settings, tap Photos, and select the Show hidden albums option to display the photos in the app again.⁽⁶⁾
5. Track the location history of any places that seem unusual. Go to Settings, click Privacy & Security, select Location Services, and scroll down until you find System Services. Then, select important places and check if any place is different from the usual for your partner.⁽⁷⁾
   
   • If your partner has Find My iPhone turned on, see their live location using the Find My app or iCloud website,⁽⁸⁾
6. Monitor data for evidence that it has been uploaded to iCloud. If you share an iCloud account with your partner, check any recently uploaded photos, messages, or files. If you see any flirty messages or photos backed up in the cloud, it's a good sign that your partner is cheating and forgetting to hide the evidence.⁽⁹⁾
   
7. Keep an eye on any changes in your partner's behavior. Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC, says that if your partner is cheating, “there are certain things where you notice a specific change from normal in their behavior.”⁽¹⁰⁾ Although symptoms may vary from person to person, common suspicious behaviors include:⁽¹¹⁾
   
   • They take their phone with them wherever they go
   • Changing the PIN to unlock their phone
   • Taking their phone away from you or acting more secretive
   • push you away or rush to upset you
   • Moving between different levels of intimacy
   • modifying their physical appearance⁽¹²⁾
   • Gets immediately defensive when you ask to see their phone⁽¹³⁾

,edit,Can you install spy apps on your partner's iPhone?

1. No, it is illegal to install and use spying apps without informing your partner. Although there are many spying apps that can remotely track calls, messages, and locations, they are considered a privacy violation if you secretly put them on your partner's iPhone. ⁽¹⁴⁾
   

,edit,confronting a cheater

1. Calmly tell your partner about your concerns. If you want to get to the bottom of your partner's behavior, Alan Wagner, MFT, MA agrees. facing them head on And demanding full transparency is the best option. When you have a quiet moment, sit with your partner and tell them how you're feeling.⁽¹⁵⁾
   
   • Example: “Hey, I've noticed that you've been getting too personal with your phone lately and it's making me feel a little unsure about the relationship. Is there anything we need to talk about?”
   • Example: “I noticed you've been messaging another person a lot lately, and I'm feeling a little uneasy about it. Can you tell me more who they are?”
   • According to Tara Vossenkemper, PhD, LPC, if a partner is not guilty of cheating, they will usually be concerned or anxious about the accusation. If they start acting defensive, it could be a sign that they are guilty.⁽¹⁶⁾
2. Listen to your partner's side of the story. Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD, says to truly listen to what your partner is saying, even if they're saying things you don't want to hear. Remain calm and let them speak without interrupting so that your conversation is meaningful.⁽¹⁷⁾
   
3. Consider couples counseling if you want to stay together. Kelly Miller, LCSW, MSW says couples therapy is a great option “so you can have a really safe space to explore whatever is going on.”⁽¹⁸⁾ Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD agrees that therapy can help someone understand why they cheated and “can go a long way toward making lasting changes for the better.”⁽¹⁹⁾
   
4. If your trust has been broken, choose to end the relationship. Supatra Tovar, PsyD, RD says that “If you feel strongly that the trust is broken forever, sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away.” Although the decision may be difficult, getting space from your partner may be the best move.⁽²⁰⁾
   
   • Kelly Miller, LCSW, MSW says that time apart can be an opportunity for you to grow and feel whole again. She recommends doing things that help boost your self-esteem and make you feel better about yourself.⁽²¹⁾
   • So, if you don't think you're able to recover from infidelity, you're not alone. Most people who have been in a similar situation feel the same way you feel now!
5. practice self-care help you heal, Whether you decide to stay together or separate, make taking care of yourself and your well-being a priority. Talk to your friends and family members for support, do relaxing activities like listening to your favorite songs and taking long baths, and indulge yourself in your hobbies.⁽²²⁾
   
   • Avoid blaming yourself if your partner cheats on you. Your partner has made their own choices and they have only themselves to blame for cheating on you.

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• Kelly Miller, LCSW, MSW says that recovering from cheating takes time and patience, so don't be too quick to trust your partner again. Instead, she says to really pay attention to what your partner does to rebuild your trust.⁽²³⁾
• Moshe Ratson, MFT, PCC, says it's normal to feel betrayed, anxious, or embarrassed after someone cheats on you. Just take as much time as you need to heal and remember that you deserve a strong and loving relationship.⁽²⁴⁾

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